Monday, June 30, 2008

My Bucket List


Bucket List came out in 2007 starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

Two complete opposite men are forced to share the same hospital room throughout their treatment. They both discover that they only have months to live. Carter creates a Bucket List of all the things he would like to do before he "kicks the bucket." The two unlikely friends go on a search to complete their bucket list. Through this, they find the true meaning of love, life and friendship. Below is their bucket list:


  • Witness something truly majestic
  • Help a complete stranger for a common good
  • Laugh till I cry
  • Drive a Shelby mustang
  • Kiss the most beautiful girl in the world
  • Get a tattoo
  • Skydiving
  • See the pyramids
  • Get back in touch with...
  • See Rome


Because I have a chance of recurrence, this movie hit home. I cried with 20 minutes left of the movie. I cried 20 minutes after. I cried for 40 minutes straight.


It's a wonderful film but I'm sure it impacts me at a deeper level now that I know how precious life is. I don't have a time frame for my life. We all don't. I still feel I have a better chance of passing away from a car accident than cancer. I don't stress over the little stuff as much but I'm the type of person that needs the constant reminder to do more fun things for myself. I've been obsessed about my bucket list since last night. So here it is:

  • See Italy & the Sistine Chapel
  • Buy a hybrid
  • Own my own puppy or dog
  • Inspire my nephews to become better people
  • Make a lasting impact in the education and/or cancer community
  • Find my true love
  • Run a 10K
  • Learn how to ballroom dance and swing dance
  • Speak basic conversational Spanish
  • Find my true home
  • Master one hobby well enough that people would purchase

I will continue to add to my bucket list and to revisit this list. What is on your bucket list?



Monday, June 23, 2008

My Second Saline Fill



As I am writing, I'm waiting for my hydrocodone aka Vicodin to kick in. I had my second filling today. I added another 60 cc making it a total of 270 cc. I'm pretty happy at 270 cc so we discussed now next Monday's fill will be my last one. My plastic surgeon joked how his job was not to change my career. :)

The confusing part about cc vs cup size is that it really depends on our body type and the type of mastectomy. It is safe to say that typically, around 250 cc is a full B. A fellow Cowgirl told me that her 350 cc was a D but she is also very small framed. I will turn to my Cowgirls to get their filling size and go from there because implants already come in predetermine sizes.

My filling today was much like my first filling. The only thing was that my right breast continued to leak saline from my injection port for several minutes following my fill. He said it's fairly normal due to the pressure. The picture above shows how an expander looks like and the gray circle is the port. He nicely placed the port slightly above my incision scars so the expansion port doesn't bother me on a daily basis. My future blog will be my decision of saline or silicone?

Besides some discomfort, I didn't feel much pain until driving home. My breasts started to feel sore. I arrived at the gym around 6:00 pm and put in a little over 30 minutes on the stationary bike. I downed a Larabar in the car and headed home. While I was preparing dinner and my green drink, my breasts really started to ache. I took my bra off and it immediately felt better. Ten minutes go by and the throbbing continues. I debate back and forth whether to take a hydrocodone, ibuprofen or nothing at all. I chose nothing at all until I couldn't stand the pain. It's now 10:16 pm and I'm getting some relief. I was told to take my pain meds at the onset and not to wait. I blogged how I would take my meds as I needed to but today I failed to listen to my docs and myself. Next Monday is hopefully my last filling. I will arm myself with by hydrocodone and ibuprofen. I will take one of them as soon as I feel any discomfort. Lesson learned.

Pretty is What Changes

I read this book over the weekend. It's about a woman in her 30's that discovers that she carries the genetic BRCA 1 breast cancer mutation that puts her in a higher percentage for both breast and ovarian cancer. My first thought of it is that she doesn't understand because she never experienced cancer herself. As I forged through in my reading, I realized three things. 1. She's a wonderful writer. 2. Her mother passed away from aggressive cancer. She had both breast and ovarian cancer. 3. She is raising awareness and in many ways she is a survivor.

While reading this book, it made me think back to my days of making my decisions and telling my friends back home back in the fall of 2005. I remember gathering my friends at our favorite coffee shop The Flying Star over Thanksgiving break back in Albuquerque, NM. We chatted, laughed and caught up. Because I didn't want to spoil our fun, I waited until my sister was waiting to pick me up. I remember getting very choked up telling them that the lump they biopsied ended up being malignant. I remember telling them that "I have breast cancer."

In my opinion, the book was that good. I liked how it didn't paint the prettiest picture and her ending was open ended. It's about a single woman in her thirties dealing with difficult decisions.

Above is the picture on the cover of her book. Below is the article that appeared in the New York times that told the world about her dilemma and opened many people's eyes concerning genetic testing. Like her, I think knowledge is power.

Amazon:
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Website:
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Link to NY Times that is pasted below:
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/05/opinion/05queller.html?_r=2&scp=1&sq=jessica+queller&st=nyt&oref=slogin&oref=slogin


Cancer and the Maiden


By JESSICA QUELLER Published: March 5, 2005
Los Angeles

FIVE months ago, I took a test for something called the BRCA genetic mutation, which is often referred to as the breast cancer gene. My mother had fought off breast cancer and she waged a ferocious battle against a second cancer, ovarian, when it ambushed her body seven years later. The cancer won.

After my mother's death, doctors and other cancer-savvy friends suggested that my sister and I should, at some point, be genetically tested for the faulty BRCA gene. I was 34 when I took it. I tested positive.
BRCA mutations are known to cause early-onset cancer, and statistics show that having the mutation means it's almost certain that I will develop breast cancer at some point in my life. It also means that I have a greatly increased chance of developing ovarian cancer. I share this gene with my mother, but I now have something my mother did not: the warning that, in all likelihood, cancer will be coming for me.
With tests like these, modern science acts as a crystal ball - warning us of dark events that may come. We seek such knowledge so we can take measures to protect against illness. Unfortunately the test for the BRCA gene is just a decade old, and doctors can offer no definitive guidance to women diagnosed with a genetic predisposition to cancer. In the case of BRCA mutations, science has outpaced our understanding of what to do with the data. Because the test is unaccompanied by any clear medical recommendations, it doesn't provide solace so much as open a Pandora's box.
My mother never took the test. In 1993, when she was 51, the test did not yet exist. As far as she knew, she was a paragon of health when doctors delivered the crushing news that the barely discernable spot on her mammogram was breast cancer and had already spread to five lymph nodes. She was a healthy, vibrant, beautiful woman who ran four miles along the Hudson River each morning before donning her Manolo Blahniks and catching the subway to her designer's showroom in the garment district. She didn't smoke or drink. She was slim and a careful eater. She hadn't the vaguest notion that she had a genetic predisposition to cancer.
My mother came of age in the early 1960's, and was a portrait of the "modern" woman. She had been raised by a single mother in a small house on the outskirts of Beverly Hills. With little but raw talent and determination my mother flew east to New York City, and by her mid-20's she was a successful clothing designer on Seventh Avenue. Along the way, she found an adoring husband (my father) and gave birth to two daughters. My mother was among the first generation of women that balanced family and career. She lived her life freely, choosing her spouse, her profession and the timing of her children according to the natural rhythms of her life. Then she was blindsided by cancer.
I see my life as the negative image of my mother's. I'm 35, accomplished in my profession, vital, healthy - yet weighed down by the burdensome information of my genetic legacy. It's akin to Eve taking a bite of the apple. Once you have the knowledge, there's no turning back.
Although I'm currently cancer-free, the knowledge of my genetic predisposition requires me to squarely face excruciating life choices - yet with inexact information. Breast cancer genetic screening is so new that doctors don't really know what to tell women with BRCA mutations except to be vigilant about increased surveillance. Preventative chemotherapy has proven effective for women who carry the BRCA2 mutation, but it does not work for carriers of the BRCA1 mutation (the one I have.) The surest way to prevent breast and ovarian cancers is to have your breasts and ovaries removed. Recent studies show that undergoing these radical surgeries will reduce the risk of inherited breast and ovarian cancers by 90 percent.
However, I'm single, dating, and I want to have a family. I won't consider having my ovaries removed until after I've had children (thankfully the risk of ovarian cancer is slighter than that of breast cancer). But what about a double mastectomy? Having witnessed the death-grip of cancer, I'm not inclined to wait around for it to strike, especially since inexact surveillance machines do not always catch it at an early stage. Aside from drastically interrupting my life, how might a double mastectomy adversely affect issues of sexuality? My romantic future? How early in the dating process do I reveal the information about my faulty gene, with all its ramifications?
My sister is 31. She's not certain whether she will take the test. She remarked recently on the diametrically opposed approaches we have taken: knowing that cancer is often a genetic legacy, I sought out the knowledge that would permit me to make informed decisions. Knowing that there is a 50 percent chance she did not inherit the gene, my sister is not yet willing to give up the luxury that our mother had - to live her life freely, unaffected by the shadow of illness.
I empathize with my sister's point of view but in spite of the burden, I believe that women like me are fortunate to have the knowledge, imperfect as it is, of the likelihood of cancer - to know what our mothers did not.
I can say without question that my mother would have traded those 51 years of innocence for the dark knowledge that could have potentially saved her life. My mother would have done anything to live.

Monday, June 16, 2008

My first saline fill


It's about 3.5 weeks since my surgery and today was my first saline fill. Figure 9 is a wonderful diagram of the expander that is tucked behind my pectoral muscle. (This would be one of the reasons why I get muscle spasms while I try to sleep.) I arrived prompted to my appointment. I was asked to get undressed and have the opening of my gown to the front. My doc tells me that everything looks great.
I watch him as he wash his hands and gloves up. He puts a marker at my injection site on both sides before injection me with 60 cc. He placed 150 cc during my first surgery. I now have a total of 210 and he will probably have me filled up between 350 cc and 400 cc. The needle goes in until it hits the back of the injection port. From there, a large saline syringe deposits the saline into my expander.
Overall, a slight discomfort because it makes it feel as if it's harder to inhale in. My left side is a little sore. I succumbed and had half a hydrocodone after lunch. I did 30 minutes on the elliptical machine today but still felt my left side a bit. I should have stuck to the bike.
I'll probably take some hydrocodone before bed so I can sleep better. Hopefully I will only need two more fillings. Once my fillings are complete, the expander remains in my body for three months before he will switch them out with the real implants. Unlike regular breast augmentation, where they simply insert an implant behind the breast and the process is complete, a reconstructed breast typically takes about five to six months to complete:
1. remove the breast and insert the expander
2. the saline fill
3. switch out the expander with the implants
4. nipple construction
5. tattoo the aerola

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

The human body

The human body truly amazes me. This Thursday will make it three weeks since my surgery. The first three days were the toughest. I went to work part time week two. My left side was still sore and tender. I may have overworked it because my incision site on the right side was a little red. Being paranoid from my last infection, I went in to have my plastic surgeon take a look at it even though I never ran a temperature higher than 99.3. It ended up being nothing (okay, he told me to not over do it and take it easy) but I didn't care. I've learned to be my own advocate.

It's close to week three and I still have problems undressing myself at times. Certain tops and fabrics are much more difficult to take off. I also feel pretty stiff when I'm turning while driving. I still have problems getting in and out of bed. My left breast still spasms. My coworker and neighbor have loan me a wedge and triangle pillow. I tried it out last night and got a bit better sleep. Paul does meditation in the AM. Since I'm not a morning person, I started listening to a mediation CD before bed. I usually don't get very far on the CD before I fall asleep but I guess every little bit helps!

I'm looking forward to working out again. I started using little 2.5 lb weights. I should be clear to work out at week three. I'll start off easy with legs, bike and light upper body weights.

What I wanted to say is that I'm doing pretty good. The healthier you are at the start, the better. It's so vital what we put into our bodies both food and hydration wise, how we manage stress, get adequate sleep, maintain or lose weight and stay active. I know I'm not as active as I used to be. I used to be the cardio queen and now I rather do weights, walk or yoga. Either way, do what makes you happy and what will keep you moving! I've been sneaking in extra fluids by making iced tea out of green tea and mate tea. I throw in some dried goji berries for an extra handful of antioxidants. (They plump up nicely and tastes yummy in the tea.)